2. KEEP YOURSELF BUSY
Free time is a painful thing to have after a breakup. Our thoughts wander when we have too much free time and it is during these times when we think to ourselves, ‘maybe I should try and give it another chance.’ This kind of thinking will only make the breakup worse than it already is. To avoid making such rash and ridiculous decisions keep yourself busy. If you’re busy with work, or any other kinds of activities, then your mind won’t be thinking too much about the breakup and your ex-partner as well.
Try staying busy with work, this could be the time to make the extra effort for that promotion you wanted. This might be your time to opt for those photography classes you have always been wishing for. Try other activities that are more beneficial than harmful, such as sports, social clubs, traveling, cooking – the world is your oyster! Not only will these keep your mind off things, it will also help you get back in the world and meet new people.
3. DON’T GO FOR THE REBOUND
We are all familiar with the term ‘rebound relationship’. Rebound relations are where you get involved with someone with who you may only be remotely interested. People do this to fill the void of emotions and feelings left by their ex-partner. Not only is this unhealthy for you but it is unfair to the person you are having a relationship with. A relationship should be built on mutual feelings and emotions, not to replace or rectify the problems of the last relationship. Such relationships are especially common with people who want to make their ex-partner jealous by implying that they have either moved on or are in a better place than them.
These relationships will not heal you in the long term and are guaranteed to create another situation of heartbreak and pain in the future. The best thing to do is to avoid flings and short-term relationships until you have a proper grip of your emotional life and are ready for a committed relationship.
4. GIVE YOURSELF TIME AND SPACE
Following on what was talked about earlier, it is important to understand that breakups require time to get over. It is not a one week process, rather it can take months to get over. Once you have understood this fact you can start making decisions in life that are in sync with your healing process. After a breakup, it is common for people to try and replace that happiness and excitement in their lives by going on shopping sprees. The best thing to do is not to rush, take a breath and think about what you truly want and how you can achieve it.
Space is also important when dealing with a breakup. If you’re ex-partner keeps calling you or keeps meeting you in the same social circle, you should probably be upfront about the boundaries and the dynamics of the breakup. Let your ex know that you need your space to heal and get over the breakup. Some distance is always good for the soul.
TRUST YOURSELF
Trust your inner voice that’s telling you everything will be alright. The important thing to do is to let your emotions and feelings guide you to a better place. Some breakups can be surprising and may catch you off guard. Even if you aren’t the one who initiated the breakup, trust your emotional capacity to make reasoning and understanding of why it happened.
5. HAVE A HOLIDAY
Sometimes a healthy vacation is the best solution for a breakup. A change of scenery will help keep your mind busy, give you some distance, and help you get closure, all of which are essential in getting over a breakup. Moreover, going on a vacation not only grants a change of scenery but a change in your social circle as well. In some cases you and your ex are part of the same social circle, so hanging out with the same friends may not help get over the breakup the way you want it to. Going on a cruise is one of the age-old remedies of getting over a breakup.